Teachable Moments: The Purpose of Discipline

 

The word discipline means "to teach, to disciple"; and that really is our role as parents and childcare professionals. This is why we must use moments of challenge as "teachable moments".

 

Positive discipline followed by logical consequences encourages instead of diminishes our relationships. Children are naturally inquisitive and curious and on occasion may challenge authority, this is normal. Our philosophy's focus is to encourage them to have respect for themselves and others and their belongings.

 

Redirection rather than punishment is a great tool. With older children giving choices with a clear understanding of the boundaries and consequences works best. When a situation arises where a boundary is crossed this is a great opportunity to teach interpersonal skills. Children need to learn strategies of how to conduct themselves in challenging situations and taking advantage of these opportunities to teach them creates a better understanding.

 

Teaching children necessary interpersonal/leadership skills helps a child to identify and validate their feelings. This gives them additional resources to express themselves in an appropriate manner.

 

Just like us adults there are occasions where a child may be having a particularly difficult day. Continually assessing the atmosphere in a classroom to ensure that all have an opportunity to have a balance between independent and group playtime is vital. The result being there is a lesser need to carry out disciplinary measures.

 

Using a “time out” strategy as little as possible and using problem solving approaches instead builds the skills in the children to self solve issues. If there is a consistent challenge that arises working as a group, child care workers, parents and other caregivers must present a united front.

 

Consistency and follow through are paramount to developing trust in a relationship with children (and adults too). Yes, is yes, and no is no, saying what we mean and meaning what we say. This is important for establishing boundaries. When children know their boundaries, the consequences and the rewards, the need for firm discipline is significantly reduced.

 

I truly believe that today's child is tomorrow's leader. I feel that with you and I working together that we will create an environment where your child or the children in your care will gain self-confidence, compassion, empathy and self discipline that will bring him/her success in the future.

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